Resources
Understanding what is happening to you, and your children is the first step toward changing it. These resources are written for parents who are navigating abuse, custody proceedings, and a family court system that does not always get it right.
Each resource on this page covers a specific form of abuse or a specific risk protective parents face in family court. They are written to do two things: help you recognize what you are experiencing, and help you understand how it is, or should be, treated by the legal system.
You do not need to read them in any particular order. Start with what feels most relevant to where you are right now.
If you are looking for direct support with a custody case involving abuse,
Spousal / Ex-Spouse Abuse
- The Post-Separation Abuse Wheel: How Abuse Continues After Leaving
- The Wheel of Coercive Control: Was What Happened to You Abuse?
- Domestic Violence in the Context of Family Court & Custody
- Emotional Abuse: Recognition, Impact & Validation
- Financial Abuse: How Economic Control Affects Your Life and Your Children
- Psychological Abuse: Patterns, Validation & Understanding the Impact
- Sexual Abuse by a Spouse or Ex-Spouse: Validation & Understanding